During the initial months of parenthood, both of you should make real efforts to keep the lines of communication open between you. No matter how exhausted or disoriented you may be, it is essential that you find the time to explain your feelings to each other.
Having a child changes things forever. If you are the one to spend most time with your new baby, you will be distracted from the fact that you have temporarily lost your lover. The same cannot necessarily be said for your partner – if he is not so involved in the day-to-day care of your baby, it is only natural that he feels the change in your relationship more strongly.
Let your partner help as much as possible in the care of your child. Too often women involve their partners by giving them tasks that are only indirectly linked to the child. For example, when a mother says “I’ll get Samantha ready while you run the bath,” or “You heat up the food and I’ll feed her,” she is sharing some of the work, but not the child. Try reversing some of these options so your partner spends sufficient time with the baby, and make sure that both of you consider the advice given in the columns on the left and right.
An active father
A father who helps care for his child will feel needed by both his partner and the baby.